A couple of FAQ’s

A person just sent me a message, and it falls along the lines of things I get, sadly, quite often.

The person’s significant other is a vampire. The vampire cares deeply for this person, so obviously they don’t want harm to come to their loved one. But they need to feed from someone, right?

Here’s the thing. We’ve had discussions on a few forums I’m in about this. Vamps are always going to feel guilty about harming their donor for what they need. They know their food, and talk to their food, and their food talks back. It’s unnerving for the vamp. Put it this way. How would you feel if the sandwich you packed for your lunch had a conversation with you while you were eating it? You’d be put off, right? Feel bad that you had to eat it, even though it’s showing obvious signs of intelligence (since it’s talking to you). To the vamp, we donors are the talking sandwich. So put yourself in their shoes for a minute.

What the vamps don’t always understand is that we don’t mind being the talking sandwich when it’s needed. If we’re a sanguine donor, yeah, it’s physically going to hurt a bit, but it’s okay. We’re taking care of our person that we love. Even psychic donors get hurt a bit, but, as with our sanguine counterparts, we bounce back fast, and all is good in the world. Now, what we do mind is if the mindset of us as talking sandwiches stays in the forefront of the vamps mind, and the fact that we are people who care about the vampire gets shoved onto the back burner. Yes, we’re considered food. But we’re your friends, partners, companions, and sometimes your lovers. That part of us comes first. The fact that we feed you is secondary in our relationship.

Now, another question I get quite often is “Do I have enough blood/energy for my vamp? Can you tell me?”

Honestly? I don’t know. For the sanguine donors, there are blood tests that can be done. Basically, if you can donate to the Red Cross/blood bank, you can donate to a vamp. You just can’t donate to the blood bank AND the vamp in the same time period. There’s a limit to how much blood you can give in a certain time period before your health takes a downturn, and if you don’t give your body time to replenish the blodd you’ve lost, you could get seriously ill.

And for the psychic donors, I still can’t tell you. The only thing I can say is to have your vamp feed from you, and see what happens. There are a few possible outcomes. 1) You might not have enough energy to spare, and therefore get lethargic, or get flu like symptoms. 2) You might have more than enough energy, but your vamp is “allergic” to you. Or 3) You have more than enough energy and it’s compatible with your vamp, and if the partnership works out, congratulations are in order.

There is something else I feel I must reiterate. If you are not compatible with your vampire for any way, such as inability to feed them due to lack of resources, allergic reactions to your blood/energy, or it just squicks one or both of you out far too much, it’s okay. It does not make either of you less of a person. It is not your fault that it turned out this way. And you can still be friends!

People keep forgetting the “Friends and family” part of the definition of a Black Swan. I compare it to my best friend and myself. We dated once, and when it didn’t work out, we stayed friends. He is now my best friend in the world, and thanks to our former dating bond, we can talk about who we’re dating, or in his case, he can bitch/gush about his new wife. We can talk about things that are private without worry of being misunderstood. I can’t go to one of my other guy friends and gush about how I miss such and such an attribute from an old boyfriend. That man might think “Oh, well, I have that attribute, as well. Why don’t we try a romantic relationship?” and make our friendship awkward, to say the least.

Just because you can’t be their donor, doesn’t mean that they don’t want a person that they can talk to without being shipped off to the mental ward. You know the vampire community, now. You’ve bonded with your vampiric friend, and you want to be their friend, still, right? Then be there for them. Talk to them, have late night bitch fests with them, go out to the movies together, etc. Just cause you no longer are a walking, talking sandwich doesn’t mean you should leave their life. Yeah, we donors are important, but the friends and family of a vampire are even more so.

Just my $0.02 on the subject. I don’t speak for everyone on this, but *shrugs*

What ever happened do “Mama’s, don’t let your babies grow up to be cowboys”?

This article just made me go *grr*

http://www.pittsburghlive.com/x/pittsburghtrib/opinion/columnists/datelinedc/s_588092.html

Hell, the entire newspaper makes me want to go grr. From what I’ve seen over the past year of living in this town, that article is one and the same with the rest of the garbage that they try to feed people. But the way it was written? I mean, dear gods love gravy, that was low even for the Trib’s standards.

Here is where you actually reply to a post other than Weekend 1!!! Tell me if you like it, if you think it blows, and WHY you think that. Back yourself up, peoples! I don’t want random “Godz, that fcukin sucks monkey butts” with out a good reason as to WHY it sucks monkey butts (even though I think it does, too).
Comeon.. I know you’re out there. This spiffy site lets me see if y’all are reading me or not.

I have a new addiction…

I have found Second Life. I was one of those “But it’s not really a game?!? It’s just dressing up and running around and being stupid.”

But then a vamp friend took me in, and took me shopping. Oh, do I love to shop when it’s not really me who has to try on clothing and either be disappointed by how the outfit looks, or by how great it looks, and then not having the money for it.

So, yeah. I’ve been hanging out in there. My older brother joined. So totally dragging his vampy ass to my fave clubs. Yes, there are clubs in there. And no, I’m not taking him to a sex club. Maybe a strip club, cause that’d be funny. Oh, and I got the CUTEST pair of wings. You can change the color and everything.

My vamp just laughed and shook her head. She’s not too into things like that.  But I like it. Sanguinarius.org even has a branch there, to be a support group thing. There’s a coffee chat in the mornings sometimes, and one of the vamp clubs has a theme night. We just had a toga party a while back. Yeah, me in a toga is not flattering in game. It makes me look hippy.

For those of you who keep track of me irl, you’ll be happy to know I’m no longer unemployed. I got a job within a week of me losing my previous one, and since it was only for part time, I found a full time job a few days later! As it is right now, I’m going to try and keep both for as long as possible. But, if I can’t handle the stress, I’ll drop the part time one at a later date. For now, I’m just looking for a roommate to help me with my expenses, and tucking away the paychecks from my part time job into a separate bank account for a rainy day.

But yeah, things are looking up! My vamp was kind enough to make sure the Haven will be up and running for another year when she heard about my financial issues. And no, she didn’t break the bank. It’s like, $30 a year for both hosting and domain name, maybe cheaper. Later, after we get some research done on it, we might put in an account for Adsense, and try to make the site pay for itself. Let us know what you think about it. Or maybe, we can open up a paypal for y’all to send a donation to, if you want. Luckily, we aren’t as expensive to run as other websites out there. There are the perks that the other sites get, like live chat, cooler hosting design thingies, etc. But I like the simplicity of what we have.

So, that’s it. See ya later, alligator!

*shakes head*

I know. Yet again, I’ve been a bad bad Pixie. No posts in forever and a day. Let me catch you up on what has happened in the past while.

I am currently unemployed. Which bites major monkey butts.  I’ve been hitting the street for the past couple of days applying everywhere. I’ve got my fingers crossed, and I hope you do, too.

I’ve also started working out. I joined a gym a few weeks ago, on the SO’s advice, and have been doing uber crunches from hell like mad. My abs have been worked so hard, it can be difficult to cough without getting a twinge. It’s so cool! Hopefully, with the added health I’ll get from this, things will be better energy wise for my vamp. 🙂 That, and a slimmer waist line in the near future.

Over at the Haven and on the VCMB, we’ve started planning for the first official meetup of the Donor Squad. We’re planning to go to Otakon ’09, and share a room and party hardy! Join the forums for details. But currently, our room is just about full, so others who want to come should go and reserve a room for themselves.

I’m still crafting. I was recently in a Paganism Craft Swap and got some really cool things. My partner MADE me a Fae Tarot deck. *faints out of shock*

And I’ve started playing around in Second Life. There’s a vampire night club I hang out at, a community center, etc. I currently live in the Vampiric Library. Feel free to visit! If you know me through one of the forums, drop me a line, and I’ll give you my name in SL. And I promise, while the shopping is addictive, I will not become little miss Super Tramp. My brother (the vamp) would KILL ME! He’s already threatening to taze me if I act too silly, or get hot blooded over some guy. And no, the phrase “Don’t taze me, bro!” has not had an affect on him. And apparently, he’s going to ask for parental permission beforehand.

Anyways, that’s it for now. I’m going to go wander off and play more in SL. Y’all have fun!